No. No. No. No. No.

The only thing that you can say is that she is not overwhelmingly interested. That is all you can say.

I can tell you how it feels on the other side, being a woman on OKCUPID, and one without a clear plan on what to do with being on OKCUPID, having other concurrent relationships, parenting issues, work, plans to go to grad school, money troubles, being late with oil change, needing to take my car to a body shop because I damaged it by crashing its back (very lightly and when leaving the parking lot at home) it into a tree when I was leaving for a dr.'s appt with an unrelenting migraine pain that by then had lasted for over 48 hours, etc. etc.

So here is what it feels like being a woman on OKCUPID.

... there are too many messages to read and I have little time...

... I do not know how I should process the messages - FIFO (first-in-first-out)? LIFO (last-in-first-out)? Randomly? Whoever catches my eye?..

... I am not sure as to what I want to do with those people so I am tentative and not overly motivated...

...no, men who persist in sending me messages are not clingy and/or desperate; they are just persistent; if at any point I will have time to go back to the backlog in the inbox and read through the messages, I will first read through multiple messages from the same guy because it shows persistence, and, thus, motivation; since I am not terribly motivated on my end, a high level of motivation on the part of the guy might be just the missing secret ingredient for a tasty dish...

To sum up: do send messages from time to time, but use your language skills to phrase your messages in such a way as to avoid coming across as desperate. It is all within your power - written language is a very powerful tool with which you can influence how you will be perceived. Levity and a total lack of expectations of any kind would do that for you. I get messages from guys who just wish me a good day - I appreciate such an outpouring of good wishes and although I do not have any time for them now, I might eventually return to them later, and should the guys who have so much extra time that they can wish me a good day over and over again are still available, then we will take it from there.

In other words, the girls on the other side of the OKCUPID experienced are overwhelmed with male attention, and are likely also overwhelmed with the demands of their RL. Do not take it personally!

I am not expecting any media heartthrob (and do not consume media such as TV at all), am very open-minded, and welcome all sorts of personalities. I am just too busy. The girls who stopped replying to Rolan might be too busy as well. I am not saying that they are - I am just saying that lack of response says absolutely nothing about the level of interest except that her interest is not overwhelmingly strong at this juncture. It could be that a woman stopped responding because she intentionally stopped responding; it could also be that she still needs to find the time to respond to scores of other seekers.

The suggestion to still try to have a good time is terrific!