Maybe it's the need for safety. When we're not stable in our emotions, our therapists can be the one place where we can be ourselves and let ourselves be needy.

Your life is so much about helping others - your students, your husband, your children, your pets.

With your T, *YOU* can be given the attention that you so freely and lovingly give others.

That is a need all of us have. It's good to feel needed and it's also good to acknowledge that we also have needs.

I'm sure that it's perfectly normal and fine to have this need for our T's. Like an analogy I've made before - when the earth is shaking during an earthquake (quite common out here in California), no one wonders whether they should hold on to something sturdy until the ground stabilizes under us.

So, why should it be seen as not normal to cling to our T's when our emotional lives are making us feel unstable? I believe it's perfectly normal and not only that - it shows a real wisdom in ourselves that we access that stability that we need so much.

To deny ourselves that would be foolish.

When the emotional earth stops trembling so much, then the need to hang on to the sturdiness of T will diminish.

In the meantime, I'd say don't sweat it. The need is there and it is o.k.