Really, listen to Hamster-bamster. That is what it's like for girls on OKCUPID. I too was on there and that's how I met my current bf. We messaged, then texted, then phoned, then met. Before I suspended my profile, I was getting, on average, 3 messages a day. I used to respond to every single one because I didn't want to be a jerk, but it got to where, as Ham-bam was saying, I was going to grad school, working, dating this guy, dealing with my dog getting into trouble at doggy daycare (she is so tiny...like 3 pounds...but took on a boxer and made him bleed! So out of character for her..), and taking care of my grandfather who was ill. Just because a woman doesn't respond or does for a while then stops, you can't assume it's you. If you really want to know, ask her, but don't expect a response.