I am married to a narcissist and have two children. Unfortunately I only had my awakening to what he really is 12 months ago. Life with an N is a soul destroying experience. The damage which they inflict on to their children is deep, hurtful and yet in my case very insidious. Although he has been a wonderful provider and ensured that we have all had what we need (eg home, food, schooling, etc) there is a complete and total lack of love, empathy, emotional connection, etc, together with verbal abuse and controlling and manipulative behavior. My daughter is now 19 and seems to have ridden the storm quite well. She was however his golden child and was subsequently spoilt rotten and could never do any wrong. Regardless of this she still has no relationship with him and avoids him whenever she can. I believe that in time that the full impact of his neglectful and destructive ways will hit home. My son on the other hand is 14 and suffering terribly. He has developed a detachment disorder which developed as a protective/defense mechanism to shield him from his narc father. This leads to anger management issues because his feelings build up and then explode like a pressure cooker from time to time. We are in therapy to address this but I can see that it will take a lot of work to undo the deep emotional damage. I can fully sympathize with anyone who has had the misfortune of have a narc as a parent. Just FYI there is a new syndrome which is gaining recognition called Narcissist Victim Syndrome because more and more people are presenting to therapy with cluster of symptoms after having been at the receiving end of a narcissist. We need victims like ourselves and children to start speaking up and making people aware of the effects that these monsters have on us so that the syndrome gains official recognition in DSM. This is such a silent suffering which is difficult to validate because the narc will always portray such a perfect outwardly image that people would never believe that they are capable of such destruction. My love and empathy goes to every victim out there because I know and understand.