Thanks so much for your kind feedback! I actually have that book (the one by Patricia Evans) and sometime back identified him as a verbal abuser - big time! When I explained that to him he did tone it down a bit, but couldn't make a complete change.

Nevertheless, I find it hard to respect a man who let me pay all the rent and utilities for nearly seven years, and refused to pay half even during the times he had money. Once he got his social security check in February this year, he started to pay, but by then it was too late. And he treated me so disrespectfully.. the only reason he got to stay as long as he did was that he was desperate and I had no way to throw him out until he got his own money.

He didn't even like me anymore, but wanted to stay to "help" me. OMG... spare me the pain! I told him, in the end, I don't NEED your help. I really prefer to be around people that like me; don't you?

So now he's living in the local trailer park in his van. Good riddance! ... gosh, I hate to say that, but I'm so grateful that I've made my move and now am 700 miles north of him and will probably never see him again. I don't miss him. It is truly pathetic... I never missed any "ex" less than I do this one. His mouth (the words coming from it) were a continual torment for many years... I just couldn't take any more.

Now I can re-find myself, and be a more authentic me.