Oh boy... dating websites. Those things induced anxiety in me like nothing else. I agree with most of the advice above.

I used Match several years ago and Hamster is really accurate in her description of what it's like for a woman on the sites. That said, High Treason is also correct... some people are just using the site as a game, or temporary ego boost, or any myriad reasons not really related to dating at all. Case in point: if I had a hundred bucks for every guy who turned out to be married or attached in some way from that site way back when I was using it, I'd be a rich rich woman. Truthfully, internet dating sites in this era are rife with people who don't genuinely want to make a serious connection with anyone.

That said, try not to get your hopes up, but don't be glum about it either. Keep it light and casual. I'd put it to a two message rule. No replies after two messages means they are either too busy to honestly date or simply not really looking to date.

Chin up... there's someone out there for you. She just might not be on okcupid.