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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
I do not think that you lost your sex drive. I know what it feels to have no sex drive, and what you are reporting is not that for sure. You are being haunted by the memories of CSA. Your wife and the marriage counselor need to know that you are being haunted by the memories of your CSA, for two reasons:
- the wife needs to know so that she does not feel rejected as a person
- the marriage counselor needs to know in order to shift focus onto something else while you and your individual T work through the issue.
Loss of sex drive feels like a complete vacuum, a total blah, zilch. It does not feel like an active resistance to touch, etc., that you are reporting.
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my wife knows about the current memories of the csa. we talked a bit about it yesterday, but she still feels rejected. I don't know how to change that for her, or to help her through this...
we will not see out couple's t until next week due to the holiday... I don't know how to tell her to switch focus. I guess that will have to be something I work on communicating with her... :/