Hello everyone,
I'm new to the forum. I registered here because I'm worried about my brother. I'm trying to look for a therapist for him here in the Netherlands, but I honestly don't even know where to start. When I look for a therapist close to me on google, all I find are relationship therapists.
I think my brother needs a therapist because he has really depressing thoughts. I often talk to him, but it basically always comes down to this: he says there's not really a meaning of life, because what does it matter whether you die as a 10 year old or a 90 year old, you'll forget everything and all that has happened before means nothing. He's not very spiritual, so I can't convince him with afterlife or something. I can't really think of something to say to him, if I think about it he is kind of right. I do not agree with him though, I'd rather live till I'm 90 than to die today. I can't convince him my thoughts and that's what worries me.
He is also doing really bad with his study. He is not motivated to study at all, he really tries, I can tell. But no matter how hard he tries, he fails to study enough. He then just gets in a real negative state and he doesn't talk and just wants to be alone. This worries me, because it seems like his study is just making his state worse.
The study isn't really too hard for him, if he studied even just a little bit, he can easily pass.
I think he is depressed, but I may be wrong, as I am no expert on this. I have also heard him say that we (siblings and parents) are the only reason he wants to live. That doesn't sound very encouraging either.
And if you want to know, he is 21 years old. He has been like this for a long time.
I hope someone can help me with finding a therapist. or helping me to get me in the right direction to finding one that suits my brother.
Also I'd like to know how I can tell a therapist is good. He has been to 1 therapist, he tried it for us, but he didn't like that guy at all. He said the guy was too simple minded and didn't understand him.
That's it, if you have any questions just leave them here and I'll answer them.
Thanks for reading.