No you don't sound rude there are many people that I know that would rather have people wait until they reach out in times of trouble instead of being burried by other people trying to step in and take care of the situation when they are not a part of the situation and or like is happening with me these days some people trying to be helpful are actually seeing problems where there are none.

In either case sometimes it is better to wait for someone to reach out then to bombard them trying to help and fix the situations for them.

Hang in there.