Thank you all for the wonderful an insightful replies! It's comforting to know I'm not the only one who has experienced these troubles. It's just that in college I am just so socially awkward sometimes. I have trouble approaching women, feel I'm not good enough, and stutter when I get nervous. I just can't let go and have a normal love life. I have never even had a girlfriend and I am almost 21. I'm not even in a hurry to lose my virginity, I just sincerely wanted to meet a girl this summer, if even we just remained friends. I think I might just send this girl one final message, and just be as sincere as I can. I'll just say hey so do you still want to hang out? I'm only here for a few more weeks and was looking forward to meeting you! my number is.... and just leave her with that. if she wants to text me that can be up to her, but at least I'll have some closure. And wow! I love hearing from the ladies here and all about their okcupid experiences. I always suspected it would be like that, women getting bombarded with messages from men, but now I really believe it. I'm just curious like what stands out in messages from guys? Which ones do you reply to and which ones do you just ignore? I think I'm just gonna take it easy from now on with this site, and not check it compulsively like I have been. The key is to not get my hopes up. It's just so freakin' frustrating, having to come off as not clingy, when in reality you want them very much. It's the frustrating idea of appearing cool and care free, when in reality you are very nervous about their next response and if you will ever meet them at all.