HI. I'm sorry I don't know more about Eastern European culture, but there are some glaring problems there that cross cultures.

If your boyfriend is abusive, its time to get out of that relationship. Rape is not a crime of sex, its a crime of violence, and he had no right to take what wasn't his. Sooner or later, you are going to get badly hurt if he continues his violence. It is not your responsibility to take care of him whether he moved to be with you or not. You are both adults, and he needs to take responsibility for his actions. If you have a hotline for abuse or a women's shelter, call or visit and talk to someone about the problem.

The problem with your parents is difficult. We are told to respect our parents, but when you are an adult, you need to make your own decisions. If law is not what you want to get into, you shouldn't have to. I understand the feeling of "owing" them for all the money they have given you. Because of some chronic dibilitating pain issues, I've had to go to my own parents for "loans" because I can't work enough to pay my bills, and I'm fifty. It does make you feel like you have to make up for it by any means possible. Still, you are an adult and need to make your own decisions and form your own life.

Is there a friend with whom you can co rent a small apartment with? I'm guessing the job market isn't that great right now, but even a job you aren't crazy about might get you out from under your parent's rule. It may not pay for your own aparment, but with one or two room mates, you might be able to do it. At some point, you need to break away. Consider getting some counselling as well so that you can learn how to handle your parents.

It seems to me, that right now your boyfriend is the most threatening thing and should be taken care of first. You aren't safe with him no matter how much you think you owe him. He didn't have to move for you. That was his choice. Don't wind up in the hospital from a beating. Domestic abuse is not that uncommon, and you aren't the only one in that situation. He may say he is sorry and will never do it again, but don't fall for it. You should not have to live in fear. Please get help before he does something worse.

Sam2