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Originally Posted by content30
I recommend de friending and blocking your now former friend on FB. Then, you won't see these things. Also, people put up a huge facade on FB. Everyone has struggles and their own issues, no matter what they say or post. Yes, some people are rewarded for poor behavior, but they do have to live with the consequences. What helped me with the whole not fair thing was spending less time on FB and more time with friends and family. I set my own goals and focused on myself rather than others. As my T, and Teddy Roosevelt, would say, "Comparison is the thief of joy." Don't do it!
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this. honestly, your friend isn't happy. she's got loads of problems. she's probably lying too. try not to "compare and despair." scorp, i don't know if you are spiritual at all, but for myself i know that in the end i will have joy. this life is certainly not always easy but i believe it isn't all there is. keeping that in perspective helps me navigate the momentary stuff. gratitude for what i do have also really helps. keeping track of what is going well rather than what isn't.
i've read a lot of your posts but don't usually comment on them as i'm not always sure what to say. one thing though i do think you would be much better off holding out for better quality friends. you describe some of your friends as addicts, alcoholics, cheaters, liars, etc. who needs that in their life?! i know you want lesbian friends but these people aren't treating each other or you right. i think waiting for the quality ones and facing or accepting your loneliness/identity issues would be a much healthier approach. when i've settled and become friends with people i know i normally wouldn't under better circumstances i have really regretted it in the long run. i think you are experiencing something similar.
