It took T2 a while to figure it out... once she said to me... "I realize the bigger your smile when you come in...the worse you feel". But she didn't say it in a judgemental way. She was just saying that was what she noticed...

My H goes to group therapy and he said he was talking about some painful stuff in a joking and laughing manner. H said his group T called him out on it and told him he wasn't "allowed" to do that anymore... My H said it happened automatically but said he was able to "notice" when he was doing it and stop himself even if he was in the middle of doing it...