all my relationships are like this! it's a massive issue. I just don't feel I have the right to make even small demands on anyone at all - it all has to be on their terms

no-one comes to my place they just wait for me to visit - same with phone calls

I have this due to my relationship with my mother - she was narcissistic and spiteful

I've never found a way to stop myself repeating this pattern of "falling in" with other peoples' needs and ignoring my own

it's very deep and hard to crack - superficially I've made headway but I actually now just try to accept that it's the way I am and not blame others or resent them - I am the one writing the script