> However, I really hope we can phrase our supportive statements better so they aren't so debative.

Do you feel attacked / put down / accused etc by the thread?
I'm wondering if the lable 'debative' is hauled out when people feel attacked / put down / accused etc by a post...

> Using the words, I think, I believe, I wonder, I've studied and have decided for me... might be the best way to share these concepts. That's my POV. I think the guidelines would back me up

Hmm. Could you give me examples of statements that you find debative? That could help me see what you are saying.