Im sorry that things are so hard for you, its always such a struggle when a family splits like this, your kids are still so young and are probly so confused about whats going on and with your wife blackening you to them they are prob feeling like they are being torn between you both, but they are young and are only finding themselves still and as they get older they will begin to see things a they realy are and you guys will hopefuly have a better relationship. \my parents split when i was a kid and my dad deamonised my mam alot and this made me feel realy conflicted as i dident want to take sides, i felt alot of resentment and confusion but loved them both, maybe they are feeling similar? i hope things get better for you. message me anytime you need to talk