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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
MUE, it is a possibility in real life and it's one of the things that has made me fight so hard for my marriage. My H has been so tender and loving with our children and really cared for them emotionally and physically. He and our D have had a rough time lately, but he has tried really hard to make things better with her and for her.
Please know that I mean this is a loving way and I'm not being judgmental, but if you H asked you about kissing the other woman, would you tell him? There are some things that are so fearsome or shaming or stressful that people will just lie about them. My H has this knee jerk lie response sometimes when he feels really threatened. I hate it, but it was not a deal breaker once I understood where it was coming from. And again, he has asked me about my T and I have point-blank lied abut the situation.
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Yes, if he would have asked me about it, I would tell him the truth. He already knows though- that has come out recently. I just see something so wrong about looking somebody in the face and lying to them. To me, that tells me that they have some kind of dishonest streak in them and that is what proves that he is not trustworthy (to a certain extent).
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