my boundary problem is with my oldest daughter. it seems to me that overnight she decided that she no longer has to respect the boundaries that we've always had. i feel like a steamroller hits me when i am with her. it is verbal and i have a hard time knowing how to handle language that she knows that i don't want to be subjected to. she demands that i do everything on her schedule and the way she wants it done. i feel as if i no longer exist to her has a person/mother figure.

i now find myself avoiding her, which means i am avoiding my granddaughter and SIL. i need help with this.