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Originally Posted by hamster-bamster
No. All this stuff about fluidity is fluidly and flexibly great, but there are people are are 100% straight. I am more than 100% straight and I have been with men who are more than 100% straight. My first ex H had some gay tendencies and my second ex H was more than 100% straight. I know other men who are 100% straight.
What seems to be happening is that people who are 100% straight become 100% straight in childhood, many many years before puberty and regardless of puberty. I am not certain, but that is how it seems to be happening. People who are 100% straight have feelings for the opposite sex that are not hormonal in any way and those feelings developed very early - in kindergarten. That seems to be how the foundation of being 100% straight is laid.
It is really good to conceive of it as a continuum, something fluid, etc. etc., but not take it to an extreme: there are enough people who are perfectly straight.
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I am 100% straight. I have never experienced an attraction to women while I have experienced attractions to men. I was this way in early childhood too before hormonal changes. I always wanted to be with a guy and I'm actually quite turned off by women.
However, I still subscribe to the idea that sexuality is on a spectrum and fluid. It's not common, but there are people who identify as straight for years and years and never experience any homosexual tendencies until one day meeting someone of the same sex that they experience an attraction to for whatever reason. Plus there are plenty of people who identify as straight but occasionally have homosexual fantasies or have someone of the same sex they say they would "go gay for". I don't have any fantasies of that nature or any "girl crushes". However, I don't think that just because I have not experienced anything of that nature that it means it's completely impossible. I don't think it's likely that I will, but I think human sexuality is much more complicated than "gay" and "straight".
I could be wrong. There needs to be much more studies done on the topic of sexuality.