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Jul 05, 2013, 08:43 PM
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Member Since: Mar 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 1,486
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Originally Posted by scorpiosis37
I told her in the e-mail that I no longer was comfortable being her emergency contact and that she should put down someone else. Did she actually do that? who knows. I suppose I'll find out the next time she's in the hospital...
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I think it's wise to not be her emergency contact. Because her 'emergencies' are not true emergencies, they're cries for help (and/or attention) from a very unstable person. If you were close friends (which it seems to me, in my definition of friendship, you just aren't) then responding to her calls for help seems reasonable, while setting certain boundaries. But given that this is not the case, I would not be on-call for this person. It seems to me she's taking advantage. And maybe this is in part what makes you feel it's unfair? Do you feel she's taking advantage of the part of you that wants to be generous and helpful, to rescue? I think this dynamic is ripe for creating resentment in you (or most anyone on the receiving end). Because if you put yourself out there and keep getting burned, I can see how that would be upsetting. But my suggestion would be --don't put yourself out there for her. She'll find someone else (and then someone else, and on and on), I think it only hurts you to be on board this rollercoaster ride.
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