I'm sorry that youre going thru this, altho I dont know much about handling that type of situation. What really got me is people's responses --like saying he was "too smart." That just shows how little they know about it--from what I understand, many people on the spectrum have extremely high IQ's! So, basically, it has nothing to do with how smart they are (which I'm sure you know). And the doctors should know better (which unfortunatly many don't) because everyone is different--just like with any other situation. I'm not on the spectrum, as far as I know, but I've had people say wierd and stupid things to me when I told them about my Dx--like "But you seem so nice." Lots of hugs.