it is an oxymoron to say "just as special as everyone else" - a person is uniquely special, not unlike any other person on this planet.

If you do indeed feel a loss of identity and do feel empty, then I take it back - I take my original advice back. Originally, I thought the problem was that of incorrect conceptualization, and such problems are fixable by working through your mind logically.

The feeling empty and the feel of loss of an identity are very deep emotional and self-actualization issues and I think you will need therapy for them. I am still glad I started with this idea of incorrect conceptualization, though, because I believe that it prompted you to realize that you react with losing a sense of identity.

What you report is unusual. It is not a jealousy issue per se. Nor a self-esteem issue per se. It is a bigger issue. I hope you will get support for that. Do you have a therapist?