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Originally Posted by Miguel'smom
It's aggravating that others expect more from my son then he can give. He can't be around my family alone because they focus on the things he can't do versus the things he can. I finally got sick of them saying things and told them his dx. Their response was he's to smart to be an aspie   . I've even been told by doctors (pediatricians) that he's to social for aspie's. I know it shouldn't bother me and I should ignore them but I get aggravated knowing that strangers expect more then he can give also. This makes him pick more  . I want to do the best for him but we're going this alone because he's home-schooled I'd rather not deal with SN in public school.
What do you wish your parents did for/with you to help? How do I get others to understand he has his limits and his perfectionism means it hurts when others expect more then he can give?
He has no idea he's an aspie. He's in therapy and on meds. We've done cognitive training for attention span but as he gets older he's isolating and withdrawing more. |
I was once diagnosed with "boderline" asperger's sydrome. Later in my life, there was a doctor who wanted a clear answer and conducted a very comprehensive test, that he believed disproved the theory that I have any asperger traits. To this day, I still think I have traits. Sometimes when things people do really puzzle me or make no sense at all (usually when I am doing a complete "left brain" activity).
To answer your question, after having my first Manic episode my Mom left the hospital and system to deal with. She has always seemed to have such high expectations of my sisters and me.
Sometimes, I wish that she shouldn't have done that, but in the end with how things turned out I feel mostly the opposite. Whether what she did was a mistake or not, it made me the person I am today. Her callous DO IT YOURSELF (be independent) attitude gave me far more life experience and much more happy life than a hand-in-hand relationship could never have done.