Any ideas on how to deal with this ? The short version. 10 yrs ago I got hurt at work. Wound up having back surgery. Wound up losing job. Have been disabled for 10 yrs. Pain meds destroyed my sexual capabilities. She said don't worry about it. Wound up pretty much self imprisoned since it was hard for me to do anything. Meds put me in fog. Almost died a few times. Had no life whatsoever. Live in the sticks. Time goes on and we wound up " drifting apart ". He was working and had a life. She lived thru a disease that destroyed her hormones.
Also had procedure which takes all of a woman's sex organs inside. Now definitely no hormones. Scared to take replacements. I understood . After about 9 yrs of this I find out my testosterone level is 0.start getting monthly shots to replace. At same time I change pain doc and get off off muscle relaxant that had me zoned out. I AWOKE !!! Now I want sex with my wife but she won't let me touch her. Said she did'nt like it anymore. The kicker though is that she also won't hug, kiss, or show any affection. Do hormones take that away too ?
I haven't had any comfort or physical affection from my wife for at least 8 yrs.
I never cheated. I just want her but she don't want me. She swears there's no one else. ??? Is 59 old ? She just wants to co-exist. I've threatened to divorce her but she STILL won't change. I'm done. Literally.