I think for OKCupid to work you need to be really patient. Not just in waiting for replies but in waiting for the right person to notice your profile and message.

I've used it recently but always get worried and take my profile down after a few days. That said I had 3 dates with someone a few weeks back and although it didn't go anywhere it was really good to get to know someone new even if it was only briefly.

It was strange actually - I'd sent loads of messages and got little or no response and then out of the blue, she messaged me and was OK with meeting up fairly soon. We decided in the end that we didn't have much in common (plus she was a few years younger than me and into clubbing and things which I'm not).

I'll probably use it again in the future but my self esteem is really fragile at the moment and I'm not putting myself through it right now. Online dating is mainly about rejection and waiting in my experience.