I have been told that anger is not so much a feeling but more of a reaction. Anger is the force that protects us from hurt and other feelings.

Having said that I was never allowed to express anger as a child so I put the away and it went away for decades. Now I know when I feel anger it means I am hurt over something, and it probably isnt that the milk that boiled over in the microwave.

People's emotions move at a different pace. What is right for you will unfold when the time is right. You can't make yourself feel something that isn't there.