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Originally Posted by Early human
I finally decided that I either wanted to 'make out' with my T through out our sessions (which she would not do of course) or I wanted her to stop hugging me. Since she started hugging me I have obsessing about her between sessions wondering what she 'thinks' about me. The hugs derailed me and I was no longer to keep my transference at bay. So, I am really interested in your opinions as to weather the type of hugs that I described are inherently wrong, poor judgement, etc. It caused an awful outcome for me; my T angrily fired me and I am confused and in a horrible depression
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I am sorry for your pain and how things went down with your T. I would feel awful if my T terminated me over this. I think your T was wrong to terminate you. You needed to stay together to discuss and get through this (with no more hugging). She did not respond professionally to take care of your feelings and end therapy on a better note.
Please don't be offended but I don't believe full frontal hugs are inherently bad nor are they unethical. We are all adults and there was no way your T would know that these hugs were not good for you, unless you told her. Some people are touchy feely without thinking it is a bad thing. A hug is not necessarily erotic. Women don't realize (I'm a woman) that men are feeling their breasts against their bodies and getting aroused during a hug. I would interpret a hug to be a caring gesture. I absolutely LOVE HUGS and can't get enough. Guess you can tell I've been deprived.
As someone else wrote on PC, hugs can be healing. They can ease pain and suffering. They bring comfort to people. Let's not outlaw the hug please.
BTW, has your wife hugged you today?