I honestly don't see the correlation. I met my ex when I was 19 and we were domestic partners for 6 years. At first, it was a wonderful relationship; the first four 4 were really good. But, during the last 2 years, she slowly began to change and, at the very end, when she felt threatened that I might leave, she became abusive. So, after some deliberation, I decided to leave. However, I continued to have nightmares and residual body memories of the abuse. In that thread, I was asking how to get those nightmares and body sensations to go away. I would fall asleep and I would "feel" her there, and I didn't know how to get that to stop. Finally, it just did. But I don't see how that relates to this situation.