OTOH - we - and by we I do mean sis and I - are having difficulty finding a mate we feel is a good match. It seems like we end up giving more than we're getting. So rather than being too discriminatory, I think I settled for too little - waaaay too little, and then got burned. But when your mother rejects you, I think the tape in your head keeps saying, "...but they're not going to like me. They don't know I'm good enough for them, but I really am." That's what my tape keeps saying, anyway. Eta: so I dont even try. I think im too fat or whatever.