Sorry for your loss I cannot imagine what you are going through right now.

I think the number one thing here to do is look after number one - yourself. Instead of questioning what your T can do to help, maybe you need to be asking what SI can do? im sure it didnt change the situation or make you feel any better about it.

Talking is a good way to distract your mind through grief, so maybe try picking up the phone next time you feel like pusnishing yourself for something beyond your control?

We are all here for you, and remember, time heals xoxo