I have some ideas but I also have questions, and may I ask you to not write the way you do, because it is too dense without paragraphs. The situation is too complex, with a lot of factors, and to appreciate the details, I am asking that you write in shorter paragraphs.

So:

- the boyfriend himself needs to go ASAP

- the program in law that you do not care about at all needs to follow suit of the boyfriend in that it needs to go ASAP

After that, you need to make good choices for yourself but I cannot even start giving you suggestions because I do not understand your visa situation.

If you could clearly describe your visa situation, I would comment further.

With that, do not be hard on yourself and treat life as a series of problems to solve.