I would give my therapist a warning that I was coming in cranky, mixed up, etc. I just didn't know why. She tolerated what I call my abuse of her, and yet worked with me to get an understanding of what's going on with me, and get me to feel and tolerate the feelings. She never took it personally. I'm more attuned to myself and life is much more enjoyable. Also, I can just - be - now.