i'm sorry. i can see how my comment came across as judgmental. i was trying to say to hang out with emotionally healthier people and not people caught up in so much dysfunctional behavior that spills onto others. i definitely don't think anyone is any better than anyone else. being emotionally healthier doesn't in any way make one better--just healthier. i was was obviously quite careless in how i expressed that. again, my apologies.