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I'm not sure where 'testing' and unrealistic expectations meet, but I suspect they intersect somewhere in some cases.
I think this is key, and may be one of the most important aspects of the T relationship and experience. If we never experience this gap in practice, how would we ever learn from it about ourselves?
IRL, relationships tend to try to smooth over or ignore these gaps in the interests of harmony. But therapy allows for, and encourages, these gaps to exist so as to bring the thoughts and feelings underlaying them to our attention. It's why ruptures can be healing. And why when ruptures aren't healed, it's a break in the therapy frame that often can't be surmounted.
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