Wow, I feel and understand your pain. I have had mother issues all my life with somewhat similar father responses. I have a different prospective for you though as I now have daughter issues also. Oddly enough it is the issues with my daughter that prompts my reply. I want to encourage you to go alone and try to regain what you had between you and your mother. We want nothing to do with our daughter's husband, he is dishonest, disrespectful, and ungrateful as is she because he has complete control of her. It hurts my heart so much to see her behave as if she doesn't have a mind of her own. Yes, they are both very young and very immature. She will not see or speak to us if he cannot be with her. As with all of us it is a long and complicated story but what I want to express to you is how desperately I wish my daughter at least wanted a relationship with us and was strong enough to do that on her own. The relationship you had with your mother certainly could use improvement which, of course, will never happen if you're not speaking, but if you have the courage and strength to go to her, hopefully you could start down that path to a better understanding of each other. It without a doubt will take a considerable amount of time but if you got back together with her, it would open the door for your children to see her again and, if you just let them stew about it each on their own, one day maybe she and your husband will at least be able to be civil to each other again. I would hope that if your husband truly wants you to be happy he would have no problem with you and your children having a relationship with you parents. For your part don't force him into it or give a blow by blow of every visit. The same with your mother, she needs to let you have your family and does not need to hear reports on every move your husband makes. I don't know, I just thought I might give you another view of the situation. I wish you the best and keep taking care of yourself and your baby physically. Good luck.