> Does anyone hae any tips to cope with the urges to eat or spend money?

These come from an intense drive for relief, so it's hard to solve it with just tips, but I would be interested in any that do exist. Seems to me the dysfunctional or self destructive soothing needs to be replaced with something better. The trick is finding those things. Lifestyle changes, reframing, insight, etc, are tools for moving in new directions. For me with the food, my mantra is "nutrients." I also realized excess quantity is hard on my body. I'm over 50 so I need to take care of my body and build it up. I can't coast on youthful gifts, nor can anyone over 40. I value frugality, so when I am really poor I eat only cheap and healthy food. You have to figure out new meanings and interpretations for yourself, I think, and capture new directions that pull you forward, since being where you are is not desirable, as you suggest.