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Originally Posted by PAYNE1
Or tell the friend how much a statement like that hurts you.....A true friend would then apologize. (Or be defensive?) I am not much for returning comments with equally cutting remarks, but maybe that's just me.
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I can tell you why I recommended a cutting remark - to me, a true friend would not have produced the original, offensive remark in the first place; as a non-true friend, she deserved a cutting remark back.
I do however agree with you that with
truly true friends, exposing one's vulnerabilities and talking freely about one's feelings (which is what you are recommending when you suggest talking about how that statement hurts) are the way to go.
So we are both agreeing and disagreeing at the same time.