I have been giving everyones advice at shot. I try to have conversations with her to inspire our relationship but if I say just one negative like "We need to work harder to please each other(non sexual)" then she says things like "I'm trying!" and "you always make me look to be the bad person!" and I don't get it because I said "we". Yet I asked her to bring my allergy medicine to me one day and when she got where I was at I ask if she had it and she said "no" and just looked at me like I did something wrong and I just said okay. Does that sound normal? am I not speaking up enough? don't mean to bother you all with all my questions I just don't know.