I think of victim "role" as being a kind of acceptance that bad things happened to me. This person did this, that and the other horrible thing to me and I couldn't do anything about it, etc. but one leaves out the anger that goes with having things done to one's self that one does not like; being "forced".

Force requires resistance; yes, often lack of resistance is necessary so one can live to fight another day, but it's never necessary in talking to a T, saying you now do X because Y happened to you; Y definitely has an influence but cannot force your current response if you are an adult. The battered woman can leave (and usually eventually does or dies/gets seriously hurt) but does not; there are always choices and no one else can say what is good or bad or right or wrong but "helpless" when telling one's story is a victim "role".

I think T's want to hear, "The bassturd held me at knife point so I couldn't do anything" not, "He told me not to and I didn't want to make him angry so there wasn't anything I could do."