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Originally Posted by monalisasmile
Hmmmmm, ok well I am going to have a little rant here so excuse me if anyone is sensitive to these issues please look no further.
So altogether I have seen three different ts, all three of them have said that I put myself into a victims role. I have since accepted that and am trying to catch myself before I say something to put me back there, but if something bad happens to you, aren't you a victim? I don't agree with ts telling me I am putting myself there by telling them what happened to me. It happened and I had no choice about it, now I have choices but I didn't then. I was a child.
Second thing is t suggested I read a book about codependency. I suppose I never identified with that term before but I can see now that it would relate to me.
I don't even know what my point is... Sorry, I just needed to vent
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Oh my goodness! My T also loaned me a book to read about co-dependency. I disagreed with her suggestion - I am very empathic and its not my fault that I have to coordinate my family. She described it as 'allowing your identity to be similar to who you are with' so you become their emotion and never take control for yourself. It also made me think that, like you, she refers to me as a victim and now stops reacting to anything I say so I stop feeling like one.
I hate being called codependant, it makes me feel that everything I went through I bought on myself and my T hasn't suggested how to recover from codependancy yet, but I know it's possible.
