Hey guys,

So I was hoping someone could help me out here, I'll keep it short and sweet as possible haha. Lately I've been having unfounded thoughts or concerns about my relationship with my girlfriend. We've been together for about 9 months, and we were very close friends before we transitioned. She had never been in a relationship before, and I realize the whole process for her has been very strange and different. We have a fantastic relationship, we get along great, we spend loads of time together, her friends have adopted me as their own, and I've never been happier.

We're both the same age, 23, and I've been through enough crappy relationships to know when I have something great and someone I love (I'd never been in love up until this relationship). She never shares feelings, and is very bottled emotionally when it comes to this kind of thing, but I know she cares about me, and while she hasn't said it herself, I suspect she also loves me (I told her for the first time about two months ago, and when we spoke about it she wasn't scared or wanting to jump off the boat).

However, recently, I have felt like I'm overally concerned with her leaving me or cheating on me, or just losing interest in me. I have no rhyme or reason for these concerns, I've talked to her about it a few times, and if she had a problem with me, she would tell me. She's starting to get annoyed at me and I don't blame her. She's leaving for Africa for a month next Monday to do volunteer work, and while I couldn't be happier for her, I'm obviously a little bummed she's leaving. However, in my mind she's been acting weird as she has been tying up loose ends and hanging out with her friends and doing all of that before she leaves. Which is so weird. I really don't get why I'm feeling so paranoid over absolutely nothing.

I really feel like my constant worrying and overthinking is going to ruin my life with this girl, and I do not want that at all. I love her and I do not want to lose this girl. I need help, because I can't seem to get rid of all of this myself. I'm going to start doing psycho therapy as my uncle is a psycho therapist and highly recommended I look into it and he gave me a few numbers. But does anyone have any input or advise or doing anything I can do on my ends in the mean time? I'm so sick of being all over the map in my head, I'm sick of feeling like crap, and I would hate myself if my personal junk tore this girl out of my life.

Please help!!