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Old Jul 07, 2013, 04:52 PM
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I see a Christian counselor. If you are Christian and it is a big part of your life, then I highly recommend a Christian counselor. I would not use the term "pastoral," though. Many people use that term for lay counselors in the church or just pastors but not for licensed counselors that are Christian counselors. For me it was important that I see a counselor who had the same world view and morals as I did. If this is what you want, then a Christian counselor may be best.

If not and either way, for me, I have realized that my counselor must be someone relatable, that I have a connection with, and that has some things in common with me. For instance, my counselor is 10 years older, a Christian counselor, went to the same undergrad that I did, and has a similar personality. This has translated into an excellent and close therapeutic relationship, which most argue is the most or one of the most important factors in effective therapy.

Anyway, if you've narrowed it down to three, then you could call each of them and chat with them to see what you think about each of them. I would consider someone in practice for four years. In my state, for instance, someone like that would have counseled for 1.5 years in school, then 2+ years after school before being licensed, then in practice for 4 years =7.5-ish years of counseling total. Anyway, I would not write someone off because of that. For instance, my first counselor had 30 years of experience and a Ph.D. We were not a good match, and she was not helpful. My current counselor has been licensed for 12 years and has a Masters, but she has helped me immensely. We are an excellent match.

Good luck! I hope that therapy is helpful to you, and you find a T that is good for you.