I have these episodes where I'm angry, irritable, agitated, can't stand my husband and am just downright mean and sort of looking to piss my husband off and start an argument.

My question, how do you know if that is bipolar 2 related or just PMS related?
I have my ovaries but no uterus so I don't have a period.

If it is hormonal will birth control pills help it?

When I'm like this I not only hate my husband but in my mind we suddenly have all sorts of issues in our marriage and I think about leaving him and living on my own just my kids and I.
In reality, we have a great marriage.