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Originally Posted by healingme4me
Sneakers, where my boys are concerned, is where the name brand comes into play for me. I rationalize it, like this, I don't have daughters. I spend the money on the shoes, that end up lasting the entire school year.
And honestly, yes, I worry about the social factor. If you got a good deal, you got a good deal. Are brand name shoes, something your husband has a not so good childhood memory from? My exh grew up really poor, family of 11, but subscribes to the notion of the shoes with his sons.
They are mainly sweats and t-shirt kids, as it is. I can get away with some serious bargain hunting, where their clothes are concerned, and offset the price of sneakers.
I am getting into the realization, that my son has a friend, a couple friends, in fact whose mom's buy them the newest name brand sporting clothing apparel, not necessarily the team jerseys(which if can last longer, provided there are no trades, if there's a name and number on them--lucked out this year)
Just really sorry to read that you and your h are arguing and you are still going through all this with your mom!! And aren't you, also expecting? ((if I forgot, please forgive me, been going through much myself and there's room for confusion on an online forum, as to who is who  ))
Maybe, he's stressed about the new little one's arrival? The fact that you were shopping around, using amazon, tells me, that you aren't the type to just run out and max that cc or anything, know what I mean? Could just be projecting my own style of spending here, because that's how I'd do it, sometimes.
Hang in there!!! |
Thanks. It could be that my husband never had those types of sneakers. Actually I'm almost certain of it because his mother never would have spent money on the children like that, it would've gone to something for her instead. So that's a good point. But I mean, usually we never buy my son sneakers. Actually my mother was always the one to buy him sneakers for school. It was like a tradition every year she would take him and buy him sneakers and some clothes for the school year. They would have a fun day going to lunch and then coming home and showing me what they bought. So naturally that is not happening this year, I wanted to make sure I took care of it. Besides its just one less thing for me to worry about. I just feel like a prisoner when he does and says things to me like he did earlier.
I mean I found the sneakers at a good price, I didn't go to the expensive sneaker stores, I don't spend any money besides groceries. I would love to decorate my house the way I see some homes in magazines, but I don't. I don't go out and shop for myself hardly ever. i usually buy online for Christmas or birthdays. I mean I know my husband knows this, but I guess he just fights for principle. It makes me sick.
Yes I'm expecting. I also would like to buy some things for the baby but its like now I feel like I need to ask permission. I know he's truly not like that but he is making me feel this way. I don't know how to deal with his moods. It is now almost 8 pm and still no word from him.