Sounds like your husband is really angry and hurt by your mother's lack of following through on her yearly tradition with his(and your) son and instead of directing the anger in the most appropriate direction(your mom), he's taking it out on you!
It's not fair, and puts a ton of extra stress on you, his expecting wife!
One expression, that could help, when your husband is in a more calm and stable mood,
When you mentioned dismay over the sneakers(can even use word for word what he said), it seemed like you were angry. I can appreciate that, because it hurts me too, that my mom isn't helping us out this year. I would appreciate a little less backlash for my purchasing decisions, this is also a hard time on me, too. I am pregnant, and the less stress on me the better.
If you do, berate me, over these purchase choices again, I will need to walk into the other room, or outside in order to ensure that I don't get overstressed. Then, when I come back into the room, we can discuss, just how we will budget this new expense on our budget. I do love you, and respect the stress you are also experiencing. ((or that last line, could be the opening to the conversation??))
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Originally Posted by baker007
Thanks. It could be that my husband never had those types of sneakers. Actually I'm almost certain of it because his mother never would have spent money on the children like that, it would've gone to something for her instead. So that's a good point. But I mean, usually we never buy my son sneakers. Actually my mother was always the one to buy him sneakers for school. It was like a tradition every year she would take him and buy him sneakers and some clothes for the school year. They would have a fun day going to lunch and then coming home and showing me what they bought. So naturally that is not happening this year, I wanted to make sure I took care of it. Besides its just one less thing for me to worry about. I just feel like a prisoner when he does and says things to me like he did earlier.
I mean I found the sneakers at a good price, I didn't go to the expensive sneaker stores, I don't spend any money besides groceries. I would love to decorate my house the way I see some homes in magazines, but I don't. I don't go out and shop for myself hardly ever. i usually buy online for Christmas or birthdays. I mean I know my husband knows this, but I guess he just fights for principle. It makes me sick.
Yes I'm expecting. I also would like to buy some things for the baby but its like now I feel like I need to ask permission. I know he's truly not like that but he is making me feel this way. I don't know how to deal with his moods. It is now almost 8 pm and still no word from him.
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