Thank you for responding to my post. I think that what changed for me is the fact that i feel like i am in a position where i have no control over my life and where it is headed. its a feeling of hopelessness which i cant even describe. I am depressed and stressed all the time. Sex is the last thing on my mind and the longer i keep myself from my husband the more pressure i feel that i have to give in even though i do not want to. he has not pleased me in bed for years now. He is in fact the most boring partner i have ever had. I dont know how to change things and its driving me crazy.