Your story of getting over it's not fair, when your siblings got, and maybe still get, things that aren't fair, was helpful for me and I identified with it.

Your boundaries for getting involved with alcoholics and people with other major life problems have been lower than mine have ever been. The pace with which, according to your threads, you feel you've make deep changes in your life circumstances and relationships is much more rapid than I can imagine in my life. I imagine deeply understanding and changing one's boundaries in friendships or relationships to be something that occurs over a period of years and it often sounds like you've done it in a period of weeks. I think this might be a difference in how confidently you or I would report that we've made a change. Maybe we are towards different ends of an extreme with that.

Your tendency to talk about people in terms that many would consider elitist (such as "quality") is very different from mine. Even though I understand you were using the term another poster used, it still comes across as strongly worded to me. Since you haven't had the boundaries I've had all along, maybe you feel you need to use stronger words to classify and draw boundaries, I don't know. I agree with the poster who said that all (or most) of us have these elitist tendencies consciously or unconsciously. I'm not sure that makes it okay to talk about them explicitly as if they're acceptable though. When I recognize them in myself, I think of them as something to change, not explicitly talk about as if they are a good thing. I don't mean that one should be in close friendships with alcoholics, drug addicts, or people who are letting their mental health issues cross your boundaries in extreme ways. I just mean that I think there are more sensitive ways to talk and think about people in those categories than to label them as lacking quality. Again, if you're in the process of struggling with your own boundaries, maybe it is understandable to think about them in extreme categories like "low quality" for a while though.