Good point ultramar. You'd have to go in with no expectations and not as a set up to T. For T and I it's a back and forth.

T: I remember x!
Me: Me too, and Y, do you remember Y?
T: Harder for me to remember. We've been through a lot, do you remember how hard it was to talk about z, and now look?
Me: Yeah but ABC is still hard huh...

When I get into areas of wanting her to remember things a certain way, it gets sticky. Because we both remember it different, especially ruptures. So we just let whatever come up come through.

It could feel very "test-y". We try to focus on therapy goals, progress, funny moments. But things like "remember the best cuddle time ever?" to her likely isn't as important, though it is to my inner 6 yr old with attachment problems. Because it comes down to, if your answers are vastly different is there going to be a bottoming out of feelings, of being angry at T, of punishing T. Important to think about before asking.