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Old Jul 08, 2013, 02:36 AM
excelsior excelsior is offline
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I have posted about my former relationship before. Sorry about being here again, you guys: I'm slowly but surely getting over not having her in my life, but there's just one aspect of my breakup I can't wrap my head around.

My ex and I were together for 2.5 years, 1.5 of which were long distance. We planned to get married when she came back. Unfortunately during the time she was away, I got really ill very suddenly and was ultimately diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Right after I told her, the contact between us started to wane to nothing and yup, as I suspected, official breakup (by text, ugh) about a month later.

I had to initiate the breakup conversation because the silence was driving me nuts, but she was the one that definitively said yes, she wanted this to end, but she still wanted to be friends blah blah blah (haven't heard much from her since).

Although and I wouldn't want a relationship to continue with someone who doesn't want to be with me because that's just stupid, I just think it's super cold to go from giving off a definite and planned "I'm ready to say in sickness and in health" vibe to a "wait, you're now actually sick? In that case see ya!" vibe really quickly and that's the headspinning part I can't get past.

I've got great friends, great family, great doctors, and my meds are going okay if a bit side effect-y so I'm actually pretty blessed in life just now despite bipolar. That one thing keeps bugging me though and though I'm not ready to date again, I wonder: will every woman I meet be repelled by this illness to the point where it's a dealbreaker?

Anyone ever dealt with being dumped due to their diagnosis?

Last edited by excelsior; Jul 08, 2013 at 04:36 AM. Reason: Clarity.
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