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Originally Posted by mistrust
Life after an adulterous wife can be difficult. Depending on how you handle this serious issue you have a fifty-fifty chance to reconcile your marriage. I can't help but to wonder if the chance is a true 50/50 opportunity. Well, I guess if it wasn't for BPD that I have then I wouldn't have made her cheat. @#$%^&*(......hmmmmm  |
I am unclear on many things in your post.
1) Who told you about the 50/50 chance? I have never seen such stats. Where do they come from?..
2) You are saying that your BPD made her cheat. This is highly unlikely. For many reasons:
- It is not possible to make a woman cheat. This is because cheating is a
clandestine activity done without the partner's knowledge. Even if you literally forced her to have sex with another man by inviting him over and strapping her to the bed, it would not have been cheating since you would have been aware of the activity. So, LITERALLY, no, it is not possible to make her cheat.
- On a more serious note, you are probably saying MADE HER CHEAT in a figurative way. As in "she reacted to your BPD-ish quirks and somewhat unreasonable demands by cheating on you". This is within the realm of reasonable assumptions (meaning - it is not blatantly false), but there are a myriad other reasons that are also within the realm of reasonable assumptions. She might have simply liked the other guy. No fault of yours. Or, she might have heard delusional voices in her head telling her to sleep with another guy. Or she might have been simply bored. Or, for no reason at all - just random.
So... relax and figure things out and please share who gave you the 50/50 figure. It reminds me of my late great grandfather (who died before I was born). He was an OB-GYN. It was so many years ago - before ultrasound. So he predicted the sex of the baby. And you know what - he had a 50/50 chance of guessing it right!
Same thing.